Thirteen  years ago, at the height of puberty, I could never look into the mirror without picking out ‘flaws’. From my face, my chubby cheeks, my full hairline, my tiny nails, my small hips: I did not like the girl I saw. Flash forward to today, I look in the mirror these days and I can’t believe how in love I am with myself.  I am proud of the woman I’ve become. I love all the features I thought were flaws.  I have learnt to love myself and embrace my insecurities. There are several things that I did/stopped doing that helped build my self esteem and embrace myself and today I want to inspire you who might be going through a similar phase:

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  1. No more comparing

I cannot say this enough: Comparison is the real thief of joy.

The minute you start comparing yourself to others, you will always feel like you are not good enough. Focus on yourself and work on getting better than you were yesterday. Every new day is a fresh start to be better. Your journey is different from other people’s journeys. Circumstances are different; the struggles are different; the environment is different; YOU are different and that’s what makes you outstanding and unique. Appreciate the beauty in other people, but don’t let their light dim yours.

2. Assure yourself

It helps to even look in the mirror-and it sounds so cheesy-but if you just look in the mirror and say ” You are beautiful” and “You are worthy” those things really help you ” – Demi Lovato

I challenge you to look into the mirror everyday and tell yourself something positive. How you feel about yourself starts with what you feed your mind. Tell yourself encouraging and positive stuff at the beginning of the day to set the tone of the day! One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.

3.Acknowledging whose I am.

I am a Christian and I find it so assuring to know that I am a child of the Most High God who took Him to fearfully and wonderfully make me! I am God’s child. If you feel worthless and lonely, it’s always comforting to read the Bible where we find assurance that He is with us through every struggle and has plans for us to prosper. So keep hope alive, walk in confidence knowing everything will be alright.


4. Keeping off negative energy

I recently met a lady whose looked like she was in her early twenties but shock on me, she was in her late thirties! I asked her the secret to looking younger than her age and her first rule was , “Keeping off negative vibes”. Negative people will only bring your self esteem and confidence down. Your energy and spirit ends up being so low. To keep your confidence and self esteem high, surround yourself with people who have positive energy, people who love, inspire and encourage you as a person.

5. Self Care.

I love taking time off to take care of myself. It really helps to rejuvenate and relax. Take care of yourself and your body will love you back. Take time to do a massage, listen to good music, watch something you love, do a manicure/pedicure, have a facial, dance, sleep etc.  Life can be so busy but its good to unplug for a while so as to rejuvenate. You owe yourself the love that you freely give to other people.




What do you do to stay confident? Did you find this post helpful? Leave a comment below and I’ll get right back.

Love and light,


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